I have a severe case of FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out)
I've always had it. In high school and college, I hated to miss out on seeing friends and meeting new ones. It's too bad I didn't feel the same way about my education!
It has quite the grip on me yet; though the older I get, the easier it is to escape for a while before it grabs hold once again. This fear of missing out on being popular, financially and professionally successful, respected, and influential in society has consumed me.
It’s amazing to discover that the older we get, the clearer our vision of ourselves becomes.
I have suffered from depression and low self-esteem because of FOMO. I had drifted away from my faith in recent years because I'd felt that all hope was lost. I was convinced that I was a complete failure and that I really didn’t have a purpose. This fear of failure consumed me. But eventually, I was reminded that my worth comes from God, not from successes and failures.
Listen to my song "Only You" on bandcamp. I wrote this when I was trying to hold on to my faith as I'd known it, as my life began to spiral.
This past winter, God seemed to speak to me. I was amazed that God could use such a lost soul. I saw no value in myself; what could I possibly offer? I had finally given up control and it's amazing what happened. I have found joy through a revived faith in God, leaving my past defining moments out of the picture. The difference this time is that I know that I am who I am: a loved child of God.
You may be feeling this same way. FOMO is not always a friend, but it's not always the enemy either.
Read Deuteronomy 31:6 for some inspiration about your fear.
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Justin Ehrman is a husband, father, author and singer/songwriter.